An Interview with a Dignified Woman
Pilar is a model and a student living in Newport Beach, California. By her own admittance she has a LOT of secrets, and she prides herself on keeping them. The Dignified Devil recently got the chance to sit down with Pilar and talk about those secrets and her opinions on sexual super powers, the art of handling your scandals and pornography. Enjoy gentlemen…
So Pilar, let’s play a little game. We are on our first date. What are you wearing and, because the DD is self-obsessed, what are you dying to know about me?
Pilar Alexandria: Well, I would be wearing 6-inch stilettos, a short pencil skirt and a nice, modest blouse. Something that says, “I’m a good girl with a naughty side.” And I’m dying to know what you do for a living and how seriously you take your career. I REALLY want to know if you have any worthwhile hobbies, and I’m praying to God you’re not a cocky snob.
Well, the DD can assure you that he loves what he does for a living, has amazingly interesting hobbies and a cocky snob he is not! But what about you? The DD is a guy, after all. And as a guy he wants to know a few things about you. Mainly if you’re going to be honest with him about yourself, or try and be what you think he wants to hear and of course what’s under the outfit you just described?
PA: Well I’m wearing the hottest lingerie I could find. But here is the rub, I’m not wearing it for you, I’m wearing it for me. And of course I’m going to be honest. What is the point of taking the time to get to know someone if you’re not yourself and open? Fake people try to maintain an image. Real people, and I count myself among them, don’t give a shit. We are just honest.
Well, good to know and that’s a refreshing attitude. But you bring up an interesting topic. Something we think is truly fascinating to men: Women and their relationship to their underwear… Please enlighten us.
PA: When I go into a lingerie store, my goal isn’t to find something that the person I’m seeing might find sexy. It’s always about me and what I find sexy. I love feeling soft silky fabrics against my skin, and the way the lingerie hugs my curves. I love how beautiful underwear makes me feel. It can’t always be about pleasing a partner, you have to be willing and able to please yourself, too.
And because of the outlook I have about underwear, I wear sexy lingerie everyday. Typically black lingerie. Dates and interviews require confidence. Lingerie is a nice reminder that I am a strong, intelligent woman and I can do anything that I set my mind to. Same as when I’m being intimate with a man – you have to be confident, powerful and soft, all at the same time. JUST like lingerie. (laughs)
In reality the only time I wear boring, tan, seamless underwear is when I have to work, which ironically is modeling!
Men don’t really have an equivalent to lingerie, do they?
PA: Well, in my mind lingerie is pleasing to the eye. What really pleases me when it comes to men is seeing them stripped down, and to find his body muscular and taken care of. Taking care of your physical appearance is so sexy to me. I don’t want to come off as shallow but knowing that a man takes time out of his busy life to make time for himself and his well-being is extremely hot to me.
So let’s stay on men for a minute. What makes a man “dignified,” if we dare use the term?
PA: A dignified man, to me, is a man that can hold his own. He handles his scandal- whatever that might be. He works hard and plays hard.
Scandal is an interesting choice of words. What exactly do you mean?
PA: I’m not a saint and I don’t expect anyone else to be, either. I’m not a judgmental person. As long as you never hurt another person intentionally I think you should live freely. What’s life without scandal?
Ok. What about you and sex? Do you have what men often refer to as a sexual super power?
PA: My sexual super power is that I listen. I want to know how you want it, how you like it, how it feels for you, how I can make it better and what you wanna try. Oh… and I’m only 100 lbs so you can flip me, spin me… I’m a small package of big fun. Hell, that almost sounds like a super hero tagline!
You’re a model and you are a women with obvious and passionate opinions about women, sex and independence. How do you feel about how your kind is portrayed in the media?
PA: In regards to women and the media I feel bad for our society. Women are made to feel that they are never good enough. You’re either too big, too small, not big enough here, too small there, too short, too lanky… And models fall victim to this as well. It’s not cool. I think the biggest thing for women to understand is that sexiness comes from loving yourself. True beauty and grace come from a light within. Women need to stop worrying about everyone else and start focusing on gaining self worth.
Staying on women… Who was the most sexually influential person in your life and why?
PA: Well… (laughs) Believe it or not… Angelina Jolie. I have always had a sort of girl crush on that woman. From a very young age I have always thought of her as exceptionally beautiful and sexy. I admire how she is so mysterious and mesmerizing. I respect her for her consistent honesty with herself and her sexuality. She seems to just let it pour out of her. She’s intoxicating.
So putting you two in a dark room alone together and…
PA: I’m sure she would be showing me a thing or two… And that’s including a damn good time.
So you seem like an open woman, what are your thoughts on pornography?
PA: I personally like pornography. Not the cheap kind that makes you feel bad for the woman, but the kind you watch with your partner and say, “LET”S TRY THAT!”
Do you have a preferred taste when it comes to your porn?
PA: (laughs) Yes. Lesbian. I don’t like looking at male porn stars. I don’t find them attractive. I also like threesomes because there is always a lot going on in those. But guys, just to be clear, I’m not a lesbian, or even bi- for that matter. AND I don’t share so three ways are out of the question for me. But I can still enjoy some high quality lesbian porn every now and then, right?
Of course! This is still America!
PA: God bless America!
Amen, sister. Ok, you have said a lot. Let’s quit while we are ahead. We would love to wrap this date up by forgoing that awkward kiss goodnight, but we will settle for a good ol’ fashion dirty joke. Got one?
PA: OK. I have one! (laughs) So a man and a women start having sex outside in a park in the middle of the night. After about 15 minutes the guy gets up and says, “Damn, I wish I had a flashlight!” The woman replies, “Me too, you have been eating grass for the last 10 minutes!”
(laughs) Thank you. Thank you!
+++You can follow and see more of Pilar Alexandria who is represented by Brand Model and Talent by following her on Facebook and Twitter. Check out Anthony Evans on Facebook, Twitter, and his website. Liz Castellanos was the make-up artist for this shoot. You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter.