An Interview with the Girl Next Door
Katie is a 25 year old marketing professional from Washington D.C. She is a self-confessed girl next door, honest and to the point. We recently took the time to sit down with Katie and talk about the intricacies of men, sex, taking pictures in lingerie, and the fine art of foreplay. Enjoy Gentlemen…
Katie Marie: I wanna start out by making a statement! I really enjoy taking pictures in lingerie.
Well, you came to the right place. May we ask why?
KM: I think I enjoy it more than I should. I like how they make people feel. I’ve always been like that. I’m a nerdy girl who can play World of Warcraft, but at the end of the day… I need someone who craves me. I think taking these pictures fulfills that side of me.
So you’re saying you like men looking at you?
KM: Yes, but only if it brings them pleasure. I wouldn’t want to want to force myself upon anyone after all! (laughs)
So how would you define yourself as a sexual woman?
KM: Well, I’m a sexual person for sure. I think what defines me most and what sets me apart is my fetishes. It’s too graphic for a dignified site like this, but I will say oral sex is a part of it, and let’s leave it at that.
Ok, we’ll take your word for it. And that brings up a common theory men have about women. That basically all women are far more sexual then even they know. Would you agree with that?
KM: I think so. No matter how sexual you are or are willing to admit to there is always another level. Trust me on that! A real women wants to feel special…in every sense, even the sexual sense, and if you’re taking that to the bedroom you have to take it to the next level. You have to push it.
That leads to another thing males deal with. It seems to us guys that women are proud of the fact that they can have it both ways when it comes to how men treat them. Men will say it is confusing, agree?
KM: Both ways? Well I think I get what you mean… They want to be a princess, but most will admit they want to thrown around and controlled in the bedroom… how are men really supposed to know? I guess we’ll just have to admit women like it rough… I can tell you the number of times I’ve “made love” and enjoyed it. Zero. I need more passion than that.
So you are sitting at bar across from a man you like, but you just met, you’re talking with him, but what’s really going through your mind?
KM: When is he going to touch my thigh? And, is it really slutty to go home with him on the first date? Remember women are emotional, we over think stuff a lot, but I believe in going with the moment and how I feel at the time. No regrets. Sometimes you just have to live in the moment. I hooked up with a guy from work once. Didn’t plan it, it just happened. We ended up going out with co-workers later that night. When no one was looking he pulled me close to say “I fucked you today”. It was so hot. It’s stuff like that that makes life worth experiencing.
So on this “date” you’re thinking these thoughts sitting across from him, what should he be doing? What catches your attention?
KM: Well guys make a lot of mistakes on first dates. If we are there with you we must see something in you worth exploring. Don’t screw it up by talking about other girls! Make me feel special. I can’t say that enough.
Men like women who own their sexuality…
KM: A lot of men claim that I’m the most sexually charged person they know. I like that men can see that in me. I like being compatible on that level. But I have to admit I’ve only had two men who have been up to the challenge. (Laughs)
Is there something sexual that makes you think twice, something that you might like in theory, but might not across the line?
KM: I’m pretty open with what I’ll try, not much I won’t try if I have an interest in it… for me it would be giving myself over to a complete stranger. Or maybe giving into my semi-lesbian tendencies and letting a girl do whatever she wants to me. I THINK in the right circumstances I would do it.
So as a woman in the modern era, which is obviously OVER-SEXED, how do you deal with that?
KM: I’ve honestly never read “50 Shades of Grey”, but I’m so thankful it came out. I was reading an article about how it was getting women to be so much more open and admit to these crazy fantasies they had for years. I have always been open… I didn’t know I was supposed to be more reserved about what I wanted. I love that all women are getting there.
Do you think women treat other women fairly over all?
KM: NO! I don’t have many close girlfriends because people are hard to trust. I wish they could respect each other more and not try to take attention from one another. I don’t know why it has to be a competition. Can’t we ALL be attractive without hating one another? Women seem to live their lives being jealous and envious. I’m not saying I can’t be guilty of it, but I truly make a genuine effort to know the girl before making rash decisions.
Let’s talk wardrobe, your go-to’s. What do you wear to bed?
KM: Simple really…A cropped Hello Kitty shirt with boy shorts, or nothing. I guess it depends on what I’m coming home from. Sometimes I’ll take all my clothes off half way up the stairs. (laughs)
What do wear on a Saturday morning?
KM: Maybe tiny shorts, if I’m trying to be considerate. I’m really becoming a fan of sexy little robes lately they are easy to throw on… but sometimes those robes can be a little revealing… you’re welcome neighbors!
What about the dreaded and often feared first date?
KM: Hmm, I like to be comfortable when I first meet someone, so usually tight jeans, boots and low cut fitted top is my go-to.
What about lingerie, women seem to have a special relationship with underwear, any thought go into that?
KM: I typically find it gets in the way by the time I’m ready to have sex (laughs). I love the lace one-piece outfits and tights. But in the end just a sexy pair of panties and it’s game over for me. But make no mistake what a woman wears under her clothes is what makes her confident.
Men don’t have an equal to that do they?
KM: Hmm, you’re right. It’s hard to get us just by undressing, and showing us what you’re wearing under your clothes. We need the physical force. Pull my hair, grab my waist and tell me to sit down. Now you have my attention.
Speaking of lingerie and confidence, women also seem to have that same relationship with shoes. Men will never understand this. Your thoughts?
KM: I have a couple of thoughts. (laughs) Women are crazy and love spending their money on dumb shit that’s shiny. Also, they associate it with sex because men love heels; they make your legs and ass look amazing, so guys see that without even realizing it then their mind wonders imagining us leaving them on during sex… So, in short we do it for a) retail therapy and b) to get men thinking of fucking them c) and for people like me, they make you taller! (smiles)
So besides shoes and confidence what’s your go-to move when it comes to getting men to notice you?
KM: well, I do like the short dress, high shoe combination as do most women. I guess it depends on the kind of attention I want. If I just want someone to talk to, I’ll be my normal goofy and awkward self. Saying whatever comes to mind. If I’m sexually attracted to you, I’ll find ANY excuse to touch you.
What about men and how they dress? What do they get right and what do they get wrong?
KM: Keep it simple for the love of signification. I’m a fan of good dark jeans, a semi-fitted simple t-shirt, maybe a leather jacket. I want a guy to look like they didn’t care, but still put some effort into putting something together. I will never take a man seriously who looks like they put more thought into their outfit than me. Like I said, buy nice things, but don’t go overboard. Keep it simple
Do you have any conflict with how women are portrayed in the media from a sexual standpoint?
KM: Oh geez, of course it’s purely sexual (laughs). I feel bad for those who want to be taken seriously. I think it is so much harder for a woman who is viewed as “not as attractive”. But if you are even remotely good looking… it’s a lose-lose… Is there another option other than to be viewed from a sexual standpoint? I think women live in a world where they have to prove themselves and force men to be take them seriously… or it will always just be viewed as sexual.
What’s the sexiest thing about women in your opinion?
KJ: I would say confidence, but that’s such a typical answer. Everyone has insecurities…. so I’d say more being comfortable with herself, owning her sexuality, even if she’s into crazier things than men expect. I also love the small things about women. Things like how they touch themselves just a little while they talk or how they play with their hair when they are thinking.
So what else can you tell us about you as a woman, what would surprise men about you…
KM: Haha well, this is going to sound really hot, but I go to the renaissance festival every year and dress-up for it… I used to play World of Warcraft… That’s right I was a gamer. I was the girl flirting over the mic with boys to help me gain levels. (laughs) I need to take workshops to be less nerdy. HELP.
Any sexual advice for the modern man?
KM: Guys, be more forceful in bed. I have read it in almost every interview here on the Dignified Devil, that’s not a coincidence! No matter how I’m feeling that will shift my mood in an instant. Oh, and foreplay, it’s important people! If you can get me so worked up that I’m begging for your next move it will be worth it for you. I promise. Scouts honor!